May 8, 2013

Rainbow Tears and Prayers


This past week has been full of an extreme mix of emotions and learning opportunities for me as a young, inexperienced, but eager-to-learn teacher. I work primarily with the younger crowd, who before starting this job scared me a little. (That in and of itself has been a big change for me). I now love the younger children and the wonder they bring to the classroom. Their eyes are so bright and their minds yearn to be fed knowledge.

Last week I had an opportunity to work with the 5th grade group. I was extremely excited to gain experience with an age group I enjoy. 5th grade students are people. They have their own minds and are beginning to form their own opinions. They are able to hold conversations and debate issues, which makes teaching so rich. Upon entering the classroom I knew I couldn't waltz in demanding their respect. I haven’t had much exposure to these kids and therefore haven’t gained their respect. How could I expect them to respect me if I haven’t had a chance to yet prove that I respect them? As true as this statement is, there is still a level of respect expected from a student to a teacher, which I am. (Hard to convince myself of sometimes, or if I’m being honest, most days) I walked into the room with a mix of what I thought to be friendly sternness. Within moments, the class seemed to explode out of control. I felt my effectiveness slip out from under me, and my authority leave me before I had assigned their work. Here I was in the middle of a class of 5th grade students who neither respected me, nor desired to listen to anything I had to say. I felt defeated, stupid and unequipped to do the job I had been preparing myself for these last 5 years. I always thought, “I want to teach middle school English-I like the older kids”. This day, and in this particular moment, I felt as though that idea, dream and wish was a total wash, and a ridiculous notion. Me, teach middle school? I can’t even hold down a group of 5th graders for 2 hours with lesson plans. Pathetic, embarrassing, and disheartening are a few words that made their way in my head. I had been defeated. This experience followed me for the rest of the day, and if I’m being honest—many days to follow.

My emotions were high and low—all over the place. It is almost the end of the school year and the kids know it. Disrespect of teachers from students is in full swing and it has been hard for me to see any good, which has managed to drag me down even further. Children are such blessings, why am I not seeing this lately? This feeling makes me feel like a horrible person and a terrible teacher. One thing about teaching is that we must hide our emotions all of the time. The whole “never let them see you sweat” mentality is not only unnatural, but exhausting. We are humans and I believe our students need to know and see that. We aren't perfect. We have flaws and we have upsets. This past week my emotions have been all over the place as a result of personal and school/work stress, and I wouldn't be surprised if my stinkin’ hormones are part to blame for this as well. Covering it up with a smile has always been the way, but this past week I have been unable to do so. I’m not sure why, but it has been quite freeing to pull the mask down, if even for awhile. Friday, moments after my coworker left for the day, and left me alone in our shared space, the tears came. At first the tears came slowly and without warning and then there was no stopping them. I hoped no one would walk in the door at this moment as I knew there would be no covering up this pathetic display of emotion. As my face continued to cover with tears, I began wiping my face. A moment of laughter and a smirk appeared as I noticed that I had been wiping my face with marker stained hands from a Crayola marker poster making endeavor just moments before the flood gates opened. My face was now covered with a rainbow of tear streaks. I couldn't help but laugh at this scene I had found myself in. If there ever was an appropriate time for the #teacherproblems (hashtag teacher problems) this was most certainly it.

Yesterday, as I was still feeling inadequate and defeated, I prayed to God to restore my faith in myself and in my calling to be an educator. I prayed this prayer in the morning and was answered within the last hour of the school day. I was working in a Kindergarten classroom when a young girl walked up to me, looked in my eyes (which had been fighting tears for days) and told me she was going to make me a book. I had forgotten this moment until 20 minutes later when this child walked back up to me and presented a heart-softening, faith-restoring book written on recycled paper. The book read, "I love you Miss Let. You are a good techare. I love being with you. I love you to Miss Let and I no you love me. I love having fun with you." My eyes welled up with tears and I hugged this little gift from God. A simple book, written on recycled paper was exactly what my heart needed.

I know I am meant to be a teacher. This is such a learning process. I am blessed to be surrounded by people who build me up and encourage me in this profession and a God who loves me enough to send me angels disguised as children on a daily basis.

During this week of Teacher Appreciation, I can’t help but think of all of the teachers I have had along my journey through education. I am grateful to have had teachers who fostered my love of learning and encouraged me to follow all of my dreams. I pray that I am that teacher to at least one child I have come in contact with. This is my prayer and my dream.

Be blessed, ya’ll …especially if you made it to the end of this extremely long blog post. 

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